LATELY, there's been a drastic change in my life and I am welcoming this ''change'' with acceptance and readiness. I'm even starting to BREATHE differently, learning how to control the feeling of negative energy entering my thoughts, heart and my body throughout and dealing with at the door!

I AM NO PERFECT WOMAN. I AM NO PERFECT MOTHER. I AM NO PERFECT LOVER NEITHER AM I A PERFECT WRITER... but becoming great at all of those things isn't too far from being accomplished.

I AM learning how to be more mindful and careful with the energy that I am parading around my daughter because children can sense the slightest shift within your mood whether you know that or not...I am learning how to nurture,protect,and provide for her better because there's always room to do so. I am enjoying the "process of togetherness", we are indeed growing together. I am learning how to comb her kinks and curls with more gentle strokes ... it hasn't stopped the crying but didn't I say it was a process?

I AM learning how to be more careful with the things I put out into the world and also be more mindful of the energy I parade around others...Writing affirmations around my house to remind myself every day how capable I AM... with all the writing and reading I've been doing has created this mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual peace.

Is it okay to be in love with yourself while in love with others ? (A question I found myself asking myself years ago and a question that pops up here and now)

YES,in fact being in love with yourself should NEVER change because of the status of your relationship with others..

As women, we tend to forget about ourselves, while we are in relationships all the time. I am so GUILTY of this so I had to write about it. We neglect our dreams, we abandon our goals, and we cater to their needs first. Why? It's just natural. it's something we have no control over, Ladies catering to your man needs and wants isn't a problem but forgetting about yourself is... what about your needs and wants? Yes, he's probably doing a great job at fulfilling your needs, but are you doing things that are fulfilling for you? Like working towards your dreams, focusing on your goals and MOST IMPORTANTLY focusing on SELF LOVE and CARE.

When your lover is no longer there what do you have left besides Kleenex tissues, and a girlfriend that would tell you ''I TOLD YOU SO" in a heartbeat or that genuine friend(s) who's always there no matter what to be your shoulder to cry on?

Okay, so who can forget the iconic (MAD BLACK WOMAN) moment played by Angela Bassett as Bernadine in " Waiting to Exhale''? Let me guess, no one. Ha! Lighting his car on fire, with his thousand dollar suits, watches, and shoes while in lingerie was a ''YASSSSS GURLLLLLLL!'' moment but did anyone pay attention to the things she was saying? She had dreams of wanting to start her own catering business but he told her to wait a few years, she waited, and because of that her dreams weren't fulfilled..

You follow me? Okay so take this journey with me....

Photo credit for photo of me my BF "Ciciertified" love you girl.