Yesterday I watched this video of this girl name Kourtney (who's now known on social media as #hurtbae ) and her ex-boyfriend name Leonard. The reason why the two were brought back together is because she would like to know what every woman would like to know when it happens to them... which was why did he cheat...

WE ALL HAVE BEEN IN HURTBAE'S SHOES BEFORE, AND WE'VE ALL CROSSED PATHS WITH LEONARD'S IN OUR LIVES....

This video had every woman in the world wanting to jump through their phones, laptops, or desktops on his a*s . Even some guys were upset about it. Then the dragging of "ALL BLACK MEN CHEAT'' started to kick in. Good or bad it put us all in our feelings and had some of us thinking about our past situations or probably similar situations... some women are battling with right now. This video triggered a lot of viewers including me.

He showed 0 EMOTION the entire time while she was filled with them.. crying, smiling, googly-eyed and she even ended up walking away after asking how many times did he cheat on her and he replied I don't know....I wasn't counting...

It's very hard to watch, especially when you know you've been in that situation before but what was even harder for me to watch was what if he was the same way off screen not showing sympathy knowing what he did was wrong? I'm not expecting a man to cry (those are very rare moments for some men ) but for me it was his body language, his heavy gasp when she spoke on how she felt, it was the tone of his voice, the lack of feeling...this isn't a sign of a man who was sorry or probably wouldn't do this to someone else, this is a man filled with POWER without even noticing it... he was controlling this situation the whole time and I am pretty sure this wasn't the first time.

''NEVER UNDERESTIMATE A MAN'S ABILITY TO MAKE YOU FEEL GUILTY FOR HIS MISTAKES'' -RIHANNA

AS WOMEN WE MUST LEARN HOW POWERFUL OUR EMOTIONS ARE.... because if you are just all over the place falling apart you are freely giving your power away. You are allowing men to hurt you every chance they get because you can't control your emotions and once he's in control he's able to do what he feels because he CAN. I was there before... an emotional wreck to be exact but when I learned how important it was to control myself I became better, that's a part of SELF CARE. No, this doesn't mean I wear my feelings on my sleeve or do I live emotionless, I am a woman, I love hard and I still get upset if things bother me but I am NOW in control of my emotions because the feeling of being taken advantage of I will NEVER allow that to happen to me again.

When I watched this video part of me was mad at her for not leaving but then again it's easy to say I would've left but in reality, I am not her. People can tell you a million times to leave something that isn't good for you but only you will leave when you are fully READY. Until then you would rather live in that a lie because you are comfortable and to you that's love. I've been in a toxic relationship as well. Yes, I would go threw his phone all the time and see him flirting with other females... and I would ask questions I already knew the answers to but it just felt better hearing him cover his actions with lies. It made me upset but I didn't leave because I didn't feel like at that time it was a reason for me to leave (as stupid as that sounds but that's what toxic love do to you).I was lost and crippled plus he assured me that he was ''sorry'' so I stayed but it didn't make things better the insecurities started to form even more and I became a mess while he was just fine, you know why? because he was POWERFUL. I've seen it all but witnessing another woman in my space was enough for me.

''SOME GUYS ARE JUST blatantly honest''... yeah, after the fact that they f*cked up.

Be blatantly honest from the start, let a woman know what it is that you want from her because while she's picturing white picket fences, a beautiful little family and not living her life without you, you fear commitment because of your own issues. Women blame themselves all the time for not doing sh*t but being good and seeing the good in guys who aren't good for us. WE HAVE TO STOP, it isn't healthy.

We must stop leaving ourselves hurt and drained.. you can't make a man stop doing anything he doesn't want to do. LADIES, YOU CAN'T FIX A MAN, HE HAS TO WANT THAT FOR HIMSELF PLACE THAT ENERGY ON HELPING YOURSELF. CONTROL YOUR EMOTIONS & PRACTICE SELF LOVE AND CARE.

SIS, YOU ARE ENOUGH

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