Has someone ever went ‘‘ghost’’ on you? Have you ever went ghost on someone? From having the experience of someone going ghost on me is probably the worst feeling ever well besides cheating, being emotionally manipulated, mentally ab... you know what, let me stay on topic, but it leaves your thoughts lingering, it will also have you in limbo and halfway out your damn mind trying to figure out WHY.

URBAN DICTIONARY: GHOST- to avoid someone until they get the picture and stop contacting you.

Last week of Insecure was a total wreck for Issa, her new boo Nathan went ghost on her, and no one knows why. In that very moment, I had a flashback about how a guy that I was feeling went ghost on me.

Before we go into my story …let’s RECAP on the past episodes that led up to this point... Issa was driving LYFT one evening, and that’s how she met her now new boo Nathan. It was the craziest way to meet someone. Nathan and another passenger got into an altercation after the other passenger decided not to respect Issa's rules after she asked him not to smoke in her car.

Nathan then did what a man was supposed to do. He confronted him, words were exchanged, and from there sh*t got real. He ended up ending his ride after the altercation but tips Issa $50 for a trip that she didn’t even finish. From that moment I just knew that wouldn’t be the last time, we saw Nathan his character was so smooth..after that Issa and Nathan crossed paths again. Yes, the Universe brought them together in the same space after that crazy LYFT experience. Issa then decided to give him a small tour of LA as they waited for their tacos, she even went as far as canceling her work meeting just to hang out with this ‘‘perfect stranger” they went from playing ‘‘truth or dare’’ to going skinny dipping in Issa’s childhood home pool that led them to almost getting arrested ha. During that moment they discussed their past relationships & relations. With the advice from Nathan … ‘‘sometimes you just gotta go for it even when it doesn’t really make sense to everybody else” the next day Issa quit for her job in which she’s been unhappy at for years. He made her feel like she could shake some sh*t up in her life and that’s what made him stand out. From her point of view, they both seemed as if they were on the same page of wanting a fresh start although Nathan admitted it’s hard starting over which is the truth, in every aspect.

Issa felt how every woman feels after meeting someone new.. someone ‘‘different’’ you get excited.. your panties even get a little moist.

Although Nathan wasn’t consistent as Issa wanted him to be with the help of ‘‘edibles’’ they somehow ended up high in the sky, stuck on a Ferris wheel at COACHELLA where it all went down…

Nathan was the first to express what they both felt. ‘‘ I really like you.’’ After still hooking up then the worst happened, he went GHOST. Like really?! ISSA was sick, and I was sick for her.

Issa became OBSESSED and do you blame her? Why come into my life being the opposite of what I been through just to disappoint me too? He didn’t even have the decency to reply to her calls or texts but was on Instagram. It’s a good thing to know he was still alive and well but damn that’s pretty cold. As women we already overthink a lot so why do that? If you aren’t genuinely into that woman let her know, don’t spare us, we respect honesty more than anything. Give us what we need so we could move forward with our lives. ISSA went as far as even trying to contact Nathan through her stalker page, texting him multiple times, creating thirst trap photos to get his attention, going to his roommate house with her best friend Molly to snoop through his room and yet nothing worked.

I mean I don’t think I ever liked a guy that much, but I did do some of the things she did..so I am not judging. I was just as crazy. lol

When will it ever be safe to like or even love someone without the extra load of shit that comes with it? Does anybody have the answers?

281-330-8004 AN ERA.

When we first met we were younger he was introduced to me by my cousin who was then a friend of his. I found him attractive then but I didn’t let him know that or thought he cared to, so I kept it to myself. When I got older and saw him again, he noticed me, in other words, I blossomed, I felt like Mike Jones.

We saw each other at a mutual friend event that he was the DJ for, that night after that event we ended up staying out for hours. We were talking about life, and after that, we started talking on a consistent level. I was talking to this guy for several months. Embarrassed to say how long but never will I ever do that again.

If a guy isn’t mentioning steps further from your ''talking'' stage by the 3rd month, he’s not ready for anything serious and won’t be until he’s honest with himself. I talked about him to people who mattered in my life. I felt good with him..nothing but good times, and good vibes he even made me feel like he had my back when things were testing me in my life. I thought we both were on the same page, but one of my girlfriends made me look at things clearly like are you sure you guys are on the same page or is this just what you want? I couldn’t answer that.. because I still didn’t feel like anything was wrong besides the fact that we weren’t together yet.

He said his parents were moving to another state and that he was going to go with them at that moment I was upset but he told me not to worry, so I didn’t think anything of it, it was like okay, he’s going to move, but that’s not going to stop us from becoming a unit. It was around his birthday when I wanted to express that I was in love with him.. but suddenly around his birthday, he went GHOST. (I know, hold that ‘‘L’’ Roz lol I did… with grace, I was devastated and hated his guts..somewhat. I was sending him several text messages at once knowing my gut was saying “ you better not send him another damn text, let it go sis”posting photos on Instagram hoping he'll see them a whole damn mess, my days were flying by without hearing from him… I felt physically ill..but my brave face game was strong.

I was stuck in disbelief like what did I do? I was still hoping for the response I needed to help heal this unknown feeling... I even ruined my plays of Jhene Aiko ‘‘Souled Out” but shout out to that album. It helped me get over him. I changed his name in my phone to ‘‘DON’T ANSWER’’ but when he finally replied I did reply, the timing was perfect because I was over it.. and most importantly him. We ended up meeting up, we talked about it because me being over it didn't mean I didn't deserve an explanation, I was loyal to him. He said the reason why he went ghost was because he didn't want me to get ''attached'' when I know he was leaving. To me, it was what the hell does that even mean? You want to be considerate of how I feel now? This is why you NEVER get too comfortable even if he/she is making you feel great inside... if there's no stepping forward with actions leading up it's ALL TALK, and you are wasting your time. I forgave him there was no hate nor love lost because I know, and he probably noticed later on in life that he missed out..

What I learned from this was that people ONLY go ghost for two reasons: 1. If they are afraid of handling things how adults should like communicating what it is that they want or 2. Trying to hide what they genuinely feel either way it's NEVER on you..

When people distance themselves from you, you have to take that seriously, or you’ll end up hurting yourself. MAKE NO MISTAKE if someone really wants you they won't go ghost on you, there will be no confusion, or mixed emotions.. just a bunch of straightforward sh*t that'll be good for your mind and soul trust and believe me.