Remember when your mother would buy you Valentine's Day cards for your classmates, and you would save the bigger cards for your closest friends and the boy you liked?
Simpler times. Huh? Ha…

So, Today is officially Valentine’s Day.

I just want to start by saying to all my single ladies out there, YOU ARE STILL THAT CHICK!! Today, tomorrow, and the day after that! Valentine’s day is just another ordinary day for some but for those in love or into what some call “just another commercial holiday” uses this day to express more of how they feel but just with the world watching… For me, I see it as an extra day to spice things up, to buy sentimental gifts for each other, share affirmations & an opportunity to see how creative your significant other truly is or isn’t. Ha!
I spent years craving what my social media timelines looked like. It made me think to myself, “damn, what am I doing wrong? It made me question the men I attracted throughout my good years. But as a woman, you learn to give yourself what you would like to receive… I’m not saying go out and get all of this stuff and put on a whole persona as if those things were gifted from a man (I mean you could, cause that’s your business), but to create an enjoyable evening for SELF… is what I am getting to… like buying yourself some fresh flowers, picking up a bottle of champagne or some cheap wine that kicks, a nice bubble bath infused with rose petals, candlelit, a soothing playlist that doesn’t consist of songs that’ll get you in your feelings, making you end your night early all because you decided to selectively call a few of your exes screaming “I HATE YOU SO MUCH RIGHT NOW!,” in the range and rage of Kelis… In other words, keep away from Aubrey Graham because he’s like a mimosa. He’ll sneak up on you if you let him. Ha! To pair it all, prepare yourself a good meal and watch a good film...

I wanted to save this part for another day, but including my life in my writings is what I do.. so, I just want WARN women to stand clear of men that aren’t into what you are into, to save yourself the trouble later on down the line. I’ve been in a relationship where the guy I dated couldn’t accommodate my feelings about Valentine’s Day because he wasn’t clear about not wanting to celebrate it with me. After all, that’s what it felt like because it wasn’t against his beliefs.. so it had my thoughts lingering, maybe it was his old anniversary date, or perhaps he didn’t have a pleasant or reciprocated experience, but why did I get the bullet? It felt so unfair because I am very spontaneous and thoughtful and I wanted to share that on that day too, where men often feel as if it is a one sided day, so it sucked to voice that you’ve never experienced Valentine’s Day to your partner prior, and then they choose to do nothing. If you don’t celebrate “Valentine’s day,” be clear about it but accommodate how your woman feels about it because it then becomes how you responded and not about Valentine’s Day itself.

I don’t want anyone to feel hurt today, so that’s why I wrote this; take things further if you have to UNPLUG from all social media platforms. It’s FREE!. But whatever you do, don’t settle for those “day after calls,” tell him to keep that same energy.

You deserve better than that, sis. I love you.